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[b]I’m confused, aren’t you going to your son’s house???
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I get where OP is coming from in making that distinction.  My parents behave differently when it's just me vs when it's me and DH.  Nothing major, they just tend to revert to parent/child care taking when it's just me, but try to be more respectful of boundaries when dh is there.

We host all holidays and it's usually both sets of parents.  Here are my pet peeves

1.  Stay out of the kitchen unless specifically invited.  Both moms want to help us but DH and I have a great system worked out and we know what to do and what's needed without even saying anything.  We get stressed when our moms get in our way 
2.  Just bring what's asked.   I get that my MIL and Mom have food they liked to cook when they hosted, so I try to ask them to bring 1 or 2 of those dishes.  But the rest of my menu is carefully planned out.  One year we had 6 pies for 11 people and 3 of them don't eat pie.  
3.  If they tell you to relax.  Please just relax.  I get irritated after the 10th time of being asked "are you SURE you don't need me to do anything?". 
4.  Play with DS.  It's a great time to have some fun with him because dh and I are so busy [/quote]

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