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Sure, I agree. But, my reply was well meaning and look at her reply to me. I laid myself bare saying I do the same bcs of my ds. I admitted I do the same for anxiety and need to stop. And what was her reply? We have it and all we know have it and I am not projecting. That was defensive and she knows somewhere that I hit on something. If you read my post above, it was not rude nor did it require her to be so defensive. I stand by what I said. People who can't accept a different point of view are usually the cause of issues. I accepted that I could have caused some of my ds's anxiety and I am mindful not to cause more and project onto other people my issues.[/quote]

Sorry -- I was on my way out of the house for a funeral of a dear friend when I stopped to write my reply to you, and it came out curt.  I didn't realize you had laid yourself bare about your child's anxiety disorder and that you see anxiety in others now all the time because of your child's illness.

I think the difference between our situations though is my knowledge that there is a time issue in recognizing and treating eating disorders.  Truly, the earlier you can treat it, the greater the chances of successful treatment.  I'm not sure the same is true with anxiety disorder.  If you wait 6 months to treat, are the outcomes worse?

Also I am mindful of the fact that of all the mental health disorders, untreated anorexia has the highest fatality rate.  Once it gets entrenched therefore it is a very very dangerous illness.

Anyhow, OP as far as I know has not come back to give any more information about his or her child, and I only meant to share my general knowledge and concerns, not to attempt to diagnose a child based only on height and weight!  As I said in my initial response -- there is a wide range of normal in terms of weight and growth.  I've known of kids at the 4th percentile for age BMI . (i.e that's VERY skinny!) who had just always been at that percentile all their lives and it was totally normal for them.   But there are kids who are at the 60th percentile for age BMI where that was an aberration and it was actually NOT normal.   So what's important is whether it's a change from your usual pattern.  And if you are noticing unusual eating habits -- just pay attention and don't be afraid to intervene if you think something is wrong.

And ignore completely anyone who says parents cause eating disorders.  It is normal for a child to eat and grow and gain weight.  If for any reason you think your child isn't doing these things, it is normal to be concerned about it and to investigate, and to take action by visiting a medical specialist.  [/quote]

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