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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Clubs and coaches need to have a NO Bullying policy. This policy should be players towards other players and coaches towards players.  Abusive behavior from players or coaches are not tolerated at schools of every level and should not be tolerated in soccer at every level.

Abusive behavior Bullying behaviors include intimidation (using yelling and threats to scare into obedience), insulting (name calling to demean appearance, toughness, or worth), ridicule (making fun of bad play or lack of skill), humiliation (singling out a player for public embarrassment or blame), and benching (refusing to let a student play.)

The impact of these kinds of actions on adolescent age players can be performance anxiety about making mistakes, hesitant play because of unsure decision-making, loss of confidence one's capacity to perform, believing mistreatment is deserved, losing enjoyment of the sport one once enjoyed, even quitting the sport to avoid any coaching at all.

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Agree, except for the benching. There are situations for benching such as, consistently not showing up to practice, consistently not listening and goofing off, consistently not putting in required effort, consistently not playing as part of a team, and finally bullying other players. [/quote]

Not the PP, but I agree that benching can be a form of coach to player bullying.  I also agree that it might be appropriate in some situations. I think the most important thing is establishing clear expectations and consequences for not meeting them.  I had a recent experience with my son being benched for missing a game. We told the coach might miss the game due to a school activity and he did not indicate there would be a problem. However, when the team lost the game, suddenly it was all my son's fault. He was benched the next game, even though he never misses practice and had what seemed like permission from the coach to miss the game.

Also, if there are clear policies and consequences for not meeting expectations, the consequences must apply to all players, stars and bench players alike. The stars don't get a pass. [/quote]

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