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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grandparents...hate to break it to you but you had your turn. You have absolutely zero claim to your grandchildren. [/quote]

I'll give a more nuanced answer. My MIL told her colleagues  at her retirement party that she was now "going to raise her grandchildren." This was news to me, as I was there with her only grandchildren and was a SAHM, maybe five years in at the time.

This grand pronouncement made me truly go defensive; I doubled down on establishing boundaries and put some distance between us. I chose not to have a social media presence. MIL is on FB and not at all surprising, overshares and hasn't a clue about privacy settings and would never think to ask before posting pics of her grandchildren.

I can't monitor MIL because, again, not on FB. DH has a FB ghost account and fairly recently looked up his own mom FB page. It was photos of our kids in their very distinctive uniforms with our clearly marked house number. DH called his mom enraged and told her to take it down. She did. But, I don't have the fortitude to keep monitoring or policing MIL FB.

Kind of a pick your battles decision. Grandparents have zero RIGHTS to grandchildren, especially to assume that they'll get a "do over" and ingratiate themselves in a family structure. No. You've had your chance. You've raised your kids. We'll let you know if we need your help.

MIL is a Boomer and I understand that this whole "Motherhood 2.0: Grandmother" is unique to this generation. [/quote]

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