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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You tell your sister that you will not be able to take the child, period. [/quote]

This is what I am struggling with. OP here. It is so cruel and unfair. I see my nephew and see what a child can become if they have a stable home and support and it breaks my heart to do that. [/quote]

You are basically agreeing to take the child so that she doesn’t have to make difficult decisions. You have told her as much. This doesn’t seem compassionate of you at all. 
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I agree. 
I feel for you so much OP, while reading that my heart broke for you and your nephew.  I also sympathize with your situation, as I know I'd feel the same exact way if it were me. (((hugs )))

Now's the no sugar coating it part...

It does seem like you're enabling your sister & her bad decisions.  This is going to be history repeating itself and if you take this baby, she'll do it again and again and again.

By you cleaning up & taking the responsibility for her, she never has to hit rock bottom or be accountable for her actions, as she knows that these babies will have an incredible life with you (FAR more incredible than anything that she can provide) and I promise you...

This is exactly how she resides herself with the fact that she does it.

She has no guilt, because she tells herself that the baby is better off with you anyway.

She also has no reason to take precautions, because she knows you'll be there to catch the baby when it falls.

I don't know what to tell you, but I would tell her that you are NOT going to raise this baby, however you will help her find someone to adopt the baby.

Babies are so adoptable in this country, they don't have to be newborns for a loving couple in this country to jump at the chance of being their mom & dad.

If she won't adopt directly after birth, maybe you can convince her that since you can't take the baby, that this will be her only option?

I hesitate saying this given your sister's background, however there are some adoption attorneys who's clients will pay for a baby. 
The whole thing sounds gross & icky to me, however pandering to your sister's need for money may be the best way of getting this child adopted into a good, loving home.

If you have any doubt whatsoever about this baby's well being; take the baby, make mom sign forms giving up her parental rights & then YOU place the baby up for adoption... if open adoption makes you feel better knowing where the baby is, do that.

What is your sister's mental illness?  I apologize if you've already mentioned it, I may have missed it.

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