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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here and its nice to know that others went through the same. And yes, I do tend to overcompensate with my own child but I am ok with that. I knew scores of kids by college who were not like me and they did ok. I think its fine to grow up at 16, 17 and 18 and there is no need to do it at 8, 9, 10...

21:15 - my kid is 6 almost 7 and its becoming a phrase I hear more often amongst parents of my kid's friends.

21:47 - agree...I don't think "mature" is a positive term for young child

21:65 "The difference is that I push them to do adult things,"  ... why do you feel the need
to push a 3 yr old to do adult things?  Do you think when they are an adult they will run out 
of years to do them???  Really, there is no need to do that.  And there is a difference between
having your kid help with household chores for fun as opposed to expecting the child to actually
take on those tasks themselves on a day to day basis.

21:58 - yes, that's very true so much energy as a child went into having to basically raise myself
that creativity and the like went out the window.

22:39 - I can relate - many movies and books that I was exposed to as a young kid were just so inapproriate.

22:45 - that's terrible, I am sorry that happened to your DH.  I was always hypervigilant about adults who wanted
to help me in anyway. [b]Sadly, my mom warned me about adults who would take advantage of kids but she didn't seem to 
realize that her actions made me all the more vulnerable to those adults.[/b]  You are right- when adults find kids where
they know parent involvment is lacking they tend to see them as easy victims.
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OP, how is this even possible?[/quote]

Not the OP, but kids like this know they can't rely on their parents for help with anything because they are the ones helping their parents (with the chores in the house, with siblings, with their own needs, with their parents' emotional needs).  When a kid like this gets assaulted by someone, they generally don't tell their parents, because what can/will their parents do when the parents can't/don't even take care of themselves or their kids and react to unpredictable or unpleasant events with anger and violence.  When a child has oriented him or herself toward doing everything possible not to rock the boat or draw unwanted parental attention toward him or herself, they will err on the side of what looks like caution by not telling.  Predators can tell by how a child responds to initial interactions what's most likely to happen, and the patterns of behavior are pretty clear when you observe these children around their parents (or see that they're out on their own and minimally supervised).  Or, in the case of my parents, they make a totally inappropriate choice about a babysitter and basically hand their kids over on a platter.[/quote]

Also not the OP but I would add that OP seems to be making the point that actions speak louder than words.  You can warn a child about bad grown ups but if you don't supervise your child or teach your child to respect herself and her own personal boundaries, then you are not protecting your child from sexual predators or other abusers.[/quote]

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