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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These responses are somewhat judgy and don’t reflect my experience as a teenager nor my kid’s feelings now. Some people react to the stress of high school by needing vacation time to be low key. Why not respect that? Especially if you’re going to have a grandparent really supervising. Take the younger kids and let your hard working teens chill!
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+1  DH and I have been talking about a trip to Ireland for spring break and my HS kid asked if we could postpone that to the summer because she knows with her busy schedule what she really wants is a week to just hang out at home.[/quote]

Another +1

OP, you said in another post that you're sad that this might be the last big spring break vacation, it's the first trip in two years, etc. We get that sadness, but frankly, it's not about your emotional response but about what's best for your high schoolers that week, so close to exam time.

Your older kids are asking to prep for exams that actually do matter for their eventual college options. They are hearing about exams and studying all day, every day in their classes -- believe me, they are getting that message ALL the time. Assuming you know your own teens well enough to know they really do plan to study--let them do just that. It's dangling temptation under their noses to take them to Jamaica with you them basically say. "Spend the days how you like, including studying, as long as you join us for dinner." Sounds nice but it's actually undermining their studying because they're at the beach, for goodness' sake.

They knew the destination was Jamaica yet still told you they want to stay back home. Why not respect that and let them stay? I think maybe you aren't getting how stressful AP and other exams are.

Someone will pull the usual DCUM "family matters more than anything else so they must go" card here. But part of family life is recognizing when "we must do this as a family" only increases someone's stress, however fun the trip might seem.[/quote]

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