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No.  Most families who adopt infants create the trauma by creating the insanely profitable market for infant adoptions.  You are deluding yourself by thinking that there are orphanages filled with healthy infants waiting for second chances because they have parents who don’t want to parent them.  That’s not how it works in domestic infant adoption.

Adoption counselors coerce vulnerable women into believing that they best way they can love their babies is to give them to a wealthier family to raise.  They teach young mothers that wanting to parent when you are poor or sick or lack a lot of family support is sefish.  The industry CREATES trauma, trauma that can last generations.[/quote]

How dare you?  Seriously, HOW DARE YOU?  Who do you think you are to sit in your little home so smugly deciding why women choose to place their children for adoption and try to take that option away from them?  Must a woman leave her infant at a firehouse so he can be placed into the foster system for a few years before YOU decide that it's appropriate for him to have a family who loves him?  If you convinced every family not to adopt, there would be more abortions.  And I'm pro-choice, so it is fine with me if a woman chooses an abortion.  But if a woman does not want to abort and does not feel that she can parent, she can choose adoption and I HATE people like you who are trying to take that choice away from them.  You are not doing these women or the children any favors.  YES, let's support the women who want to parent but need financial and other support, absolutely.  YES, let's make the adoption industry as open and transparent and ethical as possible.  But you are a condescending jerk who thinks you know every woman's mind and what she [i]really[/i] wants to do and wants to take away her options, all under the guise of what's really better for everybody, because, somehow you know the answer to that.  People like this just make me sick, they really do.  OP, do your homework.  Domestic infant adoptions absolutely can be ethical and also there are ways to make it affordable.[/quote]

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