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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the best we can hope for is to go quickly. Old age is overrated.  Medicine intervention prolongs suffering of the elderly.[/quote]
You can hope but you can't control it, at all. This is like my FIL going on and on how he will go his way, and he is 76. My dad was doing great and then they determined that his arteries were blocked like 99% and he was not overweight, nor had heart issue before. I think it is all that margarine that was touted as health food for decades and similar things... After his surgery, he never recovered, Parkinson's caused by a stroke developed, few falls due to it, accelerated dementia. My dad passed away last year, after sever dementia and mobility issues. I am sure he didn't want this, but FIL is still on and on, and he is the same age as my dad when it all went to hell. And he eats like crap, all the time pies, and pastries, only store bought or restaurant food and he lives alone and like to pretend that nothing will happen. I can't even imagine if DH and I were 20ish, how would could handle any of what happened with my dad and what is likely to happen with FIL. Now, we at least have more money and can travel to visit FIL. Elderly parents might become and insane burden on their 20 year old kids.[/quote]

As someone who has lost a parent young (went into a nursing home when I was in my 20's), I can say that I learned a lot from that experience even though I was not the primary caregiver/the one making decisions.  I was there every step of the way for the decision maker, though, because they needed support, too.  It was hard.

I do not think that the average 20 something is going to be able to handle this sort of thing alone. It's overwhelming. These parents need to either put a plan in place for themselves BEFORE an emergency happens or they will simply have to deal with the consequences of not doing so.  And, actually, parents with older adult children can not assume that a 30, 40, 50, 60 or 70 something can just put their own lives on hold and rush in to take over for them.  Maybe they are dealing with small (or not so small) children, an ill spouse or health issues of their own.  Life happens to everybody.  Some of it's good, some of it not so much.[/quote]

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