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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's no fun to have to treat your parents like they're toddlers. I grew up feeling intensely embarrassed by my mom, and yes, still OFTEN feel that way.

Now that my mom is in her 80s, I'm training myself to see her as an elderly, Sometimes addled old woman. Sounds terrible, but in general, I'm pretty tolerant of old folks; may as well extend that to my own mom. (Mind you, she hasn't slowed down much, and is as mentally alert as ever. I'm just pretending that her actions are due to aging so I don't feel so embarrassed all the time). [/quote]
Why were you embarrassed by your mom pp? What did she do?[/quote]

When I was a kid, she would call attention to me when I least wanted it. At age 11, we were at a wedding reception. She tried to get me to go out on the dance floor. I didn't want to. She is generally very loud, so many people were looking at us as she cajoled. "Go onnn! Don't be embarrassed!" Then moved on to suggesting I show everyone my tap dancing from dance class, , and turned to someone else at the table and declared "she wants to take dance, but she barely moves!" Describing how shy I was. Meanwhile, I'm telling her no, stop, I don't want to dance...

These things happened ALL THE TIME. Also, she would do things like interrupt me to correct me, for example, at the mall. Clothes shopping, an employee would ask ME "can I help you find something?" I'd say "no, I'm just...," truly wanting to look around. She'd interrupt me "You said you wanted one of those shirts! Why are we here if we're just looking? She wants one of those ugly shirts you girls wear. Tell her, Larla! Larla, what are those shirts called?" And just on and on, so even if I were equipped at age 12 to handle that, I couldn't get a word in edgewise anyway.

She was rude to customer service employees. She did a lot of scoffing and tsking and guffawing.

At school Christmas performances, she'd cheer loudly... But a bit sarcastically. I remember finding them in the crowd after an elementary school play, and the first thing she said was "good thing you only had one line! I couldn't hear you! What was your line? Come on, let us hear it! " All with this jokey attitude; this faux encouraging attitude. Like she was giving me an opportunity to shine, there in the chaos of parents and kids in the school lobby.

It seemed constant to me.
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