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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is short, intense bursts of time with somebody.

I want to share everything with him, but since I don't see him often, and we avoid an electronic trail, I have to save it all up. Sometimes I forget things, miss things. I want to share the books I'm reading with him. Or TV I'm watching. Or things I've thought about. The things I'm trying to work out. My work goals. My problem children.

We have to allot time for sex and for conversation, which cuts into both. Sometimes I see him and can't touch him or have sex with him. He's right there, but inaccessible. And he and I have fantastic chemistry, which is something I don't have with my husband.

Its very very limited in time - Like a tiny mini vacation when I see him, but also like a mini marriage. I know about his health concerns, his family issues, his work issues. But I don't know about his finances or have any of the work/family responsibilities. He knows all about my kids, but doesn't have any direct contact or responsibility. I'm not sure he could even identify them in a crowd. It's birthday and vacation sex that I want to have instead of sex that I feel required to have. It's, for me, knowing for the first time what real longing for another person is. I can be  open with him and not expect to get judged as I would by my kids and husband. It is feeling alive and liking who I am with him.

I've never had an overnight with him. I'm sure he snores and steals the covers and is generally a bed hog since he's significantly taller than I am. We would have been a great couple, but circumstances are such that we aren't a couple at all. We exist on little mini dates that are all free of responsibility and care and are simply tiny vacations from reality.[/quote]

This sums all three of mine, spread out over twenty years of marriage. Life is complicated.[/quote]

How long have these affairs run?[/quote]

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