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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that a matriarch mindset exists whether or not it is articulated as such.

I believe that most conflicts between MILs and DILs are actually battles for matriarchal control of the family culture and values.  [/quote]

I agree with this. My MIL felt it was "her turn" but that dynamic just doesn't exist today in our family. She also saw it as an opportunity to control people and get her way, as opposed to a responsibility to keep family together, ensure everyone's accomplishments are celebrated, and lay the foundation for relatives to be supportive of each other. I've seen it work well when the matriarch tries to bring people together as opposed to expecting everyone to give into petulant demands.

The matriarch is definitely phasing out. The last one in my family was my aunt, but she stopped well before she died. My mom definitely isn't one, but she wouldn't have been even if cultural dynamics hadn't changed. Today's culture just doesn't seem to support it as well. My sister and I make an effort to stay in touch even though we live in different states, but I wouldn't say either one if the matriarch. I definitely plan to lay the foundation for my kids to stay close, but not sure if I'll ever be a matriarch, although I'm not opposed to it. It does seem to be more a thing of the past. This has me thinking . . .

Great post OP.[/quote]

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