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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - this is a great post - you are not alone.  I'm a 52 year old empty nester (19 and 21 year old in college).  What I found was that the empty nester years are times for reconnecting.  No more sports or dance or whatever else consumed your time.  Reach out to old friends - whether or not they have kids at home.  They will love it - just invite a group of friends to hang out at your house for a casual dinner, or stuff like art exhibits, sporting events, concerts etc.    You will see who also wants to get out of the house and have fun.  I dreaded these years so much but have never been busier  or happier and it's a nice example for our kids.  They enjoy seeing family riends over for happy hour or dinners when they are home over the summer and even join us.  Middle school to high school was not so great socially but I'm enjoying these years.  You need to get the ball rolling with some texts/ calls but once you do you will rekindle the friendships that matter.
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Not OP but thanks for this perspective from an older mom.  I also have found this period of time (early 40s) more isolating than the baby/preschool play date years which for me were very social periods.  Some of my SAHM friends have returned to work cutting down on socializing during the day, and yet our kids are young enough to fully need us in the evenings.  My friends (almost all moms, working or not) are so busy juggling the after school schedules of multiple elementary/middle school age kids (travel soccer! school concert! Girl Scouts) that it's hard to find times we are all free for book club and wine nights like we used to when the kids were in bed by 7:30.  It's helpful to remind myself that this too is a phase, that soon my kids will be old enough that I can more easily drop them off for activities and have more evening free time.  [/quote]

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