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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in.  I did it with the last bf I had before him.[/quote]

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen. [/quote]

It's probably what you think it is.  I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again.   I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things.  [b] If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.[/b][/quote]

Man here, I am sure I know what it is, and my wife also did it with ex, not interested in doing it again.  Logically, I get it.  Emotionally, it is about the equivalent of me telling wife I have gone to all the romantic cities in Europe with my Ex Girlfriend and see no need to go back there with wife.  Oh, and she's not allowed to go their with anyone else either.[/quote]
Um, no. It is nothing like that. That’s one of the worst analogies I’ve ever read. If you want your wife to be game, then you need to open yourself up to the same act from her. Would you? [/quote]

Sure, I would be game for going first ;)

Choose whatever analogy you want.  It's simply an act that most men want, that you were willing to do with an ex and not for DH and he doesn't ever get to do it unless he cheats.  It's totally logical and you are absolutely entitled to set those limits but it still sucks.  Even you conceded he would be "pissed and jealous" just as my wife would be if I told her I used to take ex-gfs to 5 star hotels but only Hampton Inns for her.[/quote]

Why would you want your wife to engage in an act that causes her pain and anxiety? That isn't very loving. She did it once, hated it. It isn't about you. [/quote]

If it's A sex then it's not something any woman should do. Anyone for that matter because of increased risks of sexual diseases and cancer.  Poor FF is a good example.[/quote]

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