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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We don't have all the information but from what OP described this clearly sounds like a reaction to the life scare and new meds. It is stunning to see so many people advise dumping the spouse.  It's not like this has been going on for a decade and the husband refuses to treat it. It's like as soon as you hit a rough patch you should bail on the marriage. I don't know if these are trolls or what.

I say this as a person who has went through a divorce.[/quote]

Most people will advise working it out if they are older/have been together for decades and/or have children. In other words, circumstances make it hard to start over. Otoh, OP's dh is 30. They have been together for a couple years at most. And her husband is having issues this early on in the marriage with no kids or other kinds of major stress? OP is young enough and unencumbered enough to start over. [/quote]

New poster. PP, you are advocating for divorce as an immediate knee-jerk reaction to what may be mental issues and/or meds talking. This may be fixable but you want OP to walk without even attempting to work with this as a potential medical issue first.

Do you simply walk away from everything and everyone that gets difficult in your own life, PP? I would not want to be in your family if you abandon people so readily rather than making any effort to help them first.

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+1.  If this is your reaction, then you should not be married; you're too selfish to be married.  A marriage requires work, devotion and support from both partners.  If one partner's reaction to a problem is to just look out for #1 and bail and move on, then that person should not be married.

This is a problem that was created by a health crisis followed by medication and there is no indication yet that it can't or won't change.  If OP is not willing to stay and try to help find a solution, then she definitely needs to remain single.  No partner deserves that type of treatment (although many get it from the large number of selfish people who get married).

I agree with the PP who suggested that OP go to the doctor with her DH and talk to the doctor about his behavioral changes and medication.  My wife has a chronic genetic disorder that has required a lot of treatment over the years.  And she's had a barrage of medications and I have often spoken with doctors about side effects of medications, sometimes side effects that she can't always identify or describe for herself.  And working as a team, we have sometimes found medications that worked better.  It never hurts to bring all of the information to the doctor; it only helps them do their job.[/quote]

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