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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We don't have all the information but from what OP described this clearly sounds like a reaction to the life scare and new meds. It is stunning to see so many people advise dumping the spouse.  It's not like this has been going on for a decade and the husband refuses to treat it. It's like as soon as you hit a rough patch you should bail on the marriage. I don't know if these are trolls or what.

I say this as a person who has went through a divorce.[/quote]

Most people will advise working it out if they are older/have been together for decades and/or have children. In other words, circumstances make it hard to start over. Otoh, OP's dh is 30. They have been together for a couple years at most. And her husband is having issues this early on in the marriage with no kids or other kinds of major stress? OP is young enough and unencumbered enough to start over. [/quote]

New poster. PP, you are advocating for divorce as an immediate knee-jerk reaction to what may be mental issues and/or meds talking. This may be fixable but you want OP to walk without even attempting to work with this as a potential medical issue first.

[b]Do you simply walk away from everything and everyone that gets difficult in your own life, PP?[/b] I would not want to be in your family if you abandon people so readily rather than making any effort to help them first.

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No. It depends on circumstances and the individual. If we had many good years and/or children together, I absolutely try to work it out with him.

Also, I wouldn't compare friends/family with spouses in this situation because the relationship is not the same. Actually, it would be easier to help a friend or family member having mental health issues simply because it doesn't affect me in the same way. I'm not building a life or having children with my friends/family, lol.

This early on in their life together and he's already demonstrating unreliability of this magnitude? What's going to happen when they have real stressors like childcare, eldercare, mortgage, job loss etc?  When people show you who they are, believe them.

I'm not saying that OP should walk away today but at minimum, acknowledge it as a possibility. Give it another year or two. If things don't improve, she should walk away. In the meantime, she should not get pregnant.[/quote]

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