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[quote=Anonymous]I kind of felt one and done with my first. But I did not want my child to be an only.

Thinking ahead ( I was 25 when we had him) I did not want him to not have another immediate family member he could count on once my husband and I pass. I did not want him to bear the burden of aging parents on his own. I wanted him to understand the dynamics of give and take with a sibling. It’s different than with adults and peers and even very different than with cousins.

So I was not over the moon during my second pregnancy but I absolutely am now. Listening to them giggle and share stories in the backseat during road trips, seeing how even though they’ll fight with each other at home, they’ll watch each other’s backs if anyone messes with their sibling. Is it harder for my DH and I, hell yeah, but knowing that they can always count on one another is worth every minute of those 9 months and our schedule juggling.

If I had it in me, I would have had three but my health took a toll. I still have no regrets. My second child is the sweetest and most caring kid I know.

OP, you made the choice that was right for you but now your judging friends that also made choices that are right for them and judging them over their excitement levels. 
It seems to be stemming from insecurity about your decision. Once you make peace with your choice then you can embrace it and not feel lonely about it and you’ll no longer need to judge the choices or excitement levels of others. 
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