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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand that you’re stressed right now. And this probably feels like a terrible time, but there is no good time to bring this up. If it makes you feel any better the nanny has probably been stressing out about this since you brought it up.

You said you talked to the nanny about added responsibilities earlier this month (so, already late in the pregnancy.) Did this include a raise for after the baby arrives? If not, she could be feeling very exploited being asked to do extra work, and longer hours for no extra pay. You would have been just as upset and emotional if she had brought this up when you had a newborn. From her prospective, you’re asking more and more and offering nothing in compensation. She probably feels backed into a corner as much as you do. [/quote]

Second this. I'm curious: why did you choose to talk about added responsibilities so late in your pregnancy? You haven't responded to posters wondering about the amount of compensation, etc. Perhaps the compensation you offered is fair and appropriate, perhaps not. She doesn't think so.

You describe yourself as being backed into a corner, but you acknowledge a conversation with your nanny about adding responsibilities that took place only recently. Sounds like you might have backed her into a corner. She took some time to consider her options, a process probably complicated by real affection for your children, and then had another conversation involving pushback. You may not like her timing, but what about your timing? What were the terms you offered her?

Bottom line, this is a development that complicates things, but it doesn't need to take the joy away from your new arrival. Your nanny very likely had motivations that were reasonable and understandable, as did you. This is a blip, a nothing. Your new baby's birth, on the other hand, is monumentally wonderful. Congratulations, and enjoy![/quote]

Completely agree. OP, please try to see this from the nanny's perspective and consider whether you're being absolutely fair in terms of duties and pay. If you feel strongly that is the case, of course you can find someone else once you're through the immediate postpartum rough patch.[/quote]

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