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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I tried to make friends, but realized me with my low income, I was not able to go out to the fancy restaurants and such they went to.

Sad when i was counting quarters one night to pay for my $12 drink on a last minute invite- embarrassingly my card was declined too (direct deposit in pending but had not yet cleared and i had my overdrafts OFF on purpose so i wouldn't get into trouble and a bill pay ran itself thru 4 days early..., i switched to a credit union so it won't happen again) ....

...anyways, luckily i had enough for the drink and tipped the guy an extra $3 he laughed but said money is money i need it for my laundry anyway! Of course AFTER i had already paid and the group WATCHED me pay with quarters from my purse "you coulda put that on my tab" after they saw me struggle. Yet they ordered themselves another round and did not order me one (i did not ask, but maybe i should have) so i left, excusing myself to make dinner (it was around 5pm happy hour).

I am blessed I have a decent townhouse in a very good school district and proud my son is on the honor roll every semester and HE has many friends in the multiple activities he does...

but he is now 17 and about to start school as a senior in HS next month.

I simply can't afford to "hang" with the other parents who go on twice daily $5 a cup Starbucks runs and $12 and up cocktails and $25+ a plate trendy restaurants  then go on wine tastings on weekends and such. I have $2 for a 711 coffee and $8 to grab some tacos off the truck, LOL, but can't afford a proper sit down so i was invited less and less and at this point they don't call me anymore because I am one of "the poors".

I live in a high income area but my disposable MONTHLY income is what these ladies drop in 1-2 days. I work a simple admin job and have a pension and 401k, but not a high income (non profit).

Not to mention I am single (by choice, chose not to marry my son's father, I did have the option and still do, just marriage is not what i want, he is in his sons life plenty don't worry!!)- so every time we go out it is them and their spouses...then me...and they low key side eye me for being single if their husbands smile and say hello to me. Like i want their men LMAO.

I am still alone with only 2 friends to call on- one from my HS days that has kids and the aforementioned sons father/friend... but at least my son has the best education i could get him here in the DMV. It is worth putting 65% of my monthly net into the mortgage here. I'd rather be house poor in a nice area than have money but live in a less desirable one.

Believe me i tried to invite them over for board games, potlucks, movie nights, other low cost things- but they divert to the fancy bar and grille every time.  Maybe once or twice a year i get invited to a BBQ or holiday gathering- but they all live in palaces compared to my humble 90's built TH.

I have learned to be a loner- and actually enjoy it now- if they wanna hang they all got my #/email otherwise nah.  Tired of being the one who reaches out 9/10 times to hang out and I am always an "afterthought" and after the party already happened "You knew you could have came..." ...but no one invited me so i digress.

TL;DR i can't afford to have friends right now and that is ok. OP i hope you find your crowd, don't give up. You may have better luck than me....
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why dont you try to be friends with similarly minded people from same income bracket? the are plenty of modestly paid feds and admin professionals in this area. [/quote]

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