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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many women on DCUM suggest often that women should not be a SAHM because you can't count on your H to support the family by himself and should do your part in that regard from the beginning, despite the possibility that having a SAHM when they are very young could be the best care a child can get.

So I would also suggest that no wife should assume their husband will be around and will be willing to take care of them when they are elderly or infirm.  Provide for yourself, make plans for yourself, whether it's an issue now or for later on.

Personally I'm 100% counting on my adult children to do whatever they can both financially and physically to care for me as I get older should the need arise.  They have both assured me I have nothing to worry about in that regard.

Not only did they see me and my siblings care for our elderly mother until the day she died they also have vivid and happy memories of me caring for them when they were little, until they were both in school full time.[/quote]

I'm a SAHM and it is still my job and my husband's job to plan for our old age.  I'm not putting that responsibility on my kids.  No way will I do that.  They need to be able to work and raise their own families.  I am grateful that my own parents have felt the same way.[/quote]

My husband, who I am divorced from, and I also planned for our old age.  Neither of us would have asked or told our kids that our old age care was their responsibility.  And by the way, they are both middle aged, not young, so they are working and raising their own families.  Yet, I am still 100% sure that if I need their help as I get older they will be there for me.  So, my point is, you may not be able to count on your spouse but, at least in my case, with my children, I can count on them.  It's comforting.[/quote]

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