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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My in-laws moved near us.  My DH had previously ‘managed’ boundaries simply by being a very long drive away.

That your in-laws announced the move without ever consulting DH and you — as did mine — is evidence that they aren’t attuned to boundaries.

I had to push my DH to get better at managing boundaries directly.

It was rough for a bit, and is still a little bumpy a few years later.

It will be better if your in-laws are rational, reasonably normal people.  Mine are not.[/quote]

You sound deranged. In-laws don’t need to get permission from anyone to move to your town.[/quote]

Of course they don’t need permission to move somewhere.  But people with normal social skills don’t show up a party where they are not invited.

When the parents are moving closer simply to because the adult child is there and they don’t even stop to consider the child’s perspective, there is clearly a problem:
— they fail to see their child as an adult with a separate life
— they have a lot of expectation of fulfillment from being involved with this young family
— they have nothing else to do; they are letting go all their friends and activities solely be near a kid’s family

It’s a set-up for a big clash of expectations and autonomy.

It’s a very different than a family with healthy dynamics wanting to live near each other.[/quote]

Uh...what?

A party is a private event held in a home or a private venue, so of course you need permission to come to a party.

Any grown adult in this country is free to move anywhere they damn well please, as long as they can afford the rent or the mortgage and abide by the law. It's not a party so much as it is a free country. [/quote]

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