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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]He came out at 42, so soon enough to live his life fully and enjoy his youth. But too far into a marriage to not have it devastate someone else.
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"I was 42 years old when I came out to my wife. It was 15 months later that I started that same conversation with my three boys -- 9-year-old twins and an 11-year-old.

The whole experience is somewhat of a blur, mostly in part to the fact that at that point in my life there was a lot of change happening and some significant pent-up emotions. There wasn't much of a plan, no guidebook in hand, only goals that I hoped my boys would start the process of understanding and accepting their dad for whom I truly was: a gay man.

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When the moment to break the news to my kids finally came, I had a lot of issues to navigate. [b]Over 15 months, I had finalized the divorce, moved again and taken a new job based in Chicago, 250 miles away from my boys. The distance was to create some space between my now ex-wife, who struggled being in proximity to me.[/b]"[/quote]  I think his reason for moving is bogus.  Of course his wife struggled- he didn't give her time to come to terms with it before he left and then she was left holding down the fort and dealing with the implosion of her marriage.  They were already in a large enough metro area to get some space. I think he needs to look at his real motivations for abandoning his children in a time of crisis. [/quote]

I think this ‘time to come to terms’ with crap is bogus.

How much time did she need? The divorce happened over a 15-month period. Was he supposed to pray the gay away in couple’s therapy with her for two years??[/quote]

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