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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.[/quote]

Listen and share, except if you are a white woman? I posted my previous story of mistreatment to help illustrate the fact that no one, regardless if you are white, rich, have support staff, can speak the language of health care providers, are a native English speaker, etc. is immune from abusive treatment. Yes, women of color are more susceptible. But we all—regardless of race—have a responsibility to speak out and use our voices to let people know this treatment is unacceptable, and to support and validate any woman who has been mistreated during birth. Don’t ever silence anyone who has been mistreated during one of the most vulnerable times of their life and is trying to raise their voice to help others. We all need to lock arms and say, this should not happen to anyone, and demand better care. [/quote]

"It happened to me too" is a well-known way to derail conversations about racism.

You want to be an ally? Then be an ally.[/quote]

This isn't a conversation about racism. It's a conversation about health care.  Since we live in a society where there are huge disparities between races, every issue is going to have a racial aspect.  So basically you're suggesting that we can't discuss public policy at all?  How does that make sense?

I'm happy to be an ally and stay out of a conversation when it's clear that it's private (between black women or whatever).  But this is DCUM, a general interest website.  [/quote]

Everyone needs to listen to the experience of Black maternal mistreatment.  Not just when you're also allowed to chime in.  We need to understand this to our core and fight for better care for THEM.  As a consequence, care for all mothers will improve.  But if you insist on doing it the other way around, the disparity will still remain for Black mothers.  Unfortunately, in reality women's rights only improve when White women complain. [/quote]

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