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[quote=Anonymous]I am about your age, married with no kids. We got married in our mid-30s after being together a couple of years.

I really like being married. Sure it's got its frustrations - plenty of them! - but for me, having a partner I can count on is a very positive thing in my life. I also really do not enjoy being single.

I'd been in several long term relationships before meeting my husband, living with people a couple of times. I am very glad I didn't marry those guys. So just to say: I don't think marriage qua marriage is great, but marriage with someone you want to be married to is really nice.

There's always the question of why get married if you don't want kids. (We did not and do not want kids.) For me, I just wanted that commitment - that public commitment, that commitment to each other. I don't know if there is any substantive difference between being married or not, but I just really like having a *husband* - I like wearing a wedding ring. Maybe it makes me feel more adult, or more a part of society, or something. I really don't have an answer to why it means something to me, just that it does.

So yeah - here to ring the pro-marriage bell, with the caveat that I think living with someone you are unhappy with is much worse than being alone. So live together for at least a year before getting hitched, to make sure you like what you're getting into.[/quote]

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