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[quote=Anonymous]Some of this is in the way DD looks at it.

At her age, I often got stuck in the rut of thinking I was missing something when I didn't have a friend who was as close as my best friend in HS.

It wasn't that I couldn't get anyone to do anything whenever I wanted, it was just that they were a long list of people that came and went every semester or so.

Much of it was because they would find romantic relationships and not have time or maybe more accurately would rather hang out with someone else.

If DD is trying to find a friend who is so close that it meets her needs both for friendship but also to take the edge off a lack of romantic opportunities, that is a pretty high bar and it can scare people off.

Eventually, my list of friends included more and more people who found it hard to find romantic opportunities.  Their issues also made it hard to be friends for very long.

My advice would be that DD not worry about having long term friends because friends are going to come and go more and more quickly as her 20s go by and people pair off for the longer term.

At least for me, once I gave up on my ideal of long term friends, my efforts to create shorter term friendships also transferred well into building my romantic searching skills.

Good luck[/quote]

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