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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's relatively common in the older population to move on quickly -- [b]especially for men who wives took care of them[/b].[/quote]

Jesus, enough with this "caretaker" bullshit. He was mid-50s. Gen X. Women of that generation don't "take care of" their husbands.[/quote]

Um....I'm 48 and I "take care" of my husband. [/quote]

Which means what, exactly?[/quote]

NP, but same age. I cook dinner, I clean the house, I initiate sex. I bring in an income. I pay the mortgage. I'm an equal partner with kids.  As I said earlier ... he also takes care of me. He cooks dinner, he fixes broken things in the house, he initiates sex. He brings in an income, and pays the bills. He's an equal partner with the kids. I mean, this isn't all, but you get it, right?

Either one of us COULD do it alone. But it is great to have somebody to share that work with. I don't understand why it is so offensive to hear that a wife takes care of her husband (or that a husband takes care of his spouse). You SHOULD be doing that. It doesn't mean that you can't take care of yourself. It means that when your spouse is the one who always manages the internet, you don't have to think about it and you can be the one who manages the cars, so he doesn't have to think about it. Sharing the burden. Being friends and lovers. Being a couple. Enjoying sharing a life.

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Also, a lot of times the wife is running the show socially. My mom is widowed I’m her 70s and has a million friends and activities. A lot of men are reliant on their wife to organize these things, so dating becomes more important.[/quote]

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