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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Never, really.  Even when they are at school I'm the one on call.  It's not like I can head to Rehobeth and for a beach day and relax and drink margaritas.  I can get stuff done around the house, I can run errands, I can work out but I need to be ready to snap to it and pick a kid up as needed.[/quote]

This is just dumb.  By your logic no parent is ever 'off duty.'  OP obviously means when you're not the only adult directly supervising the children.  Come on.[/quote]

This. Working parents are on call too. OP means when the children are actually present.

What I find interesting about this thread, though, is all the people including nighttime/post-work hours. So if the working spouse gets home at 6 pm, the SAH spouse is still on duty? The working spouse works 9-5 (or whatever) but the SAH spouse is on duty 24/7? That seems unfair. DH and I both work out of the house and when we are in the house, either we are both on duty, or we split it up. Staying at home should not be a license for the working spouse to never lift a finger with regard to anything non-work-related.[/quote]

Good for you.  
A lot of SAHPs don’t have a spouse who works 9-5 and is off every weekend.

Also, this is kind of hard to parse out in day to day life.  If I have four kids and my DH is playing soccer with two of them, and the other two are coloring in the kitchen while I make dinner, am I on duty or off duty?  
By your logic, I am off duty because my DH is also on.  By my logic, I am still on.  [/quote]

Obviously if the kids are with you, you're on duty. But if DH has all four of them in the backyard and you are just cooking dinner, you're not doing childcare, you're doing household tasks. Which still isn't the same as downtime, I know. My point is more, it's 9 pm and everyone is home. Does DH relax in the basement with the TV on while you -- having watched the kids all day -- are still doing kid stuff like baths, bedtime, homework. In my mind, that's unfair because it means the SAH spouse is on duty round the clock while the working spouse is not. But apparently lots of people don't mind that, so good for them.[/quote]

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