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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about having him help you do chores—you’re side by side and he can talk while you listen, but you’re also getting stuff done around the house that needs to get done. Outline the weekend ahead of time (we do this on a white board every Friday night) so he knows what to expect. Something like this:

Saturday: AM laundry folding and bathrooms (mom upstarts, Charlie downstairs, dad basement); family bike ride and lunch out; quiet time (everyone in their own bedrooms for an hour); mom and Charlie cook dinner while dad mows lawn; Charlie chooses board game before bed[/quote]

This. I don't know how people *don't* mostly have a weekend routine like this.[/quote]

There is so much more time in the day to fill. [/quote]

But there's... not. Not necessarily. Note I said "mostly."

Literally taking the above example but filling in with other typical chores and whatnot...

7:30-8:30-- breakfast, hang out, maybe read the paper
8:30-9:30-- chores
9:30-12-- family bike ride, playground, lunch, come back (this could be shorter if kid wakes up later)
12-2-- run some errands, maybe grab ice cream
2-3-- quiet time
3-5-- snack, gardening or reading or MAYBE an hour of "playing" with mom/dad 
5-6-- make dinner, etc. (maybe prepare for the week if it's Sunday) 
6-7:30-- dinner, then board games
7:30-- start bedtime routine, kid is in bed by ~8:30 or 9.

Something along these lines is usually how one of my weekend days goes-- and I also have an extrovert. The other day usually ends up organically including 1-2 activities like a birthday party, some event like a free concert or a trip to the zoo, maybe a playdate or a visit with my grandmother (3-4 hours right there, including travel time).

And my kid doesn't even have structured activities! And we don't even go to church/etc.!

I kind of get it-- I have ADHD and I need to get out of the house most days. I totally look for interesting ways to fill my time. But speaking from personal experience, I often see a day stretching endlessly and intimidatingly ahead of me and by 7:30 pm am wondering where the heck the time went. [/quote]

In the one who first wrote about the schedule, and yes it was very basic and didn’t cover the whole day, but I didn’t have time this morning to write out more. It also helps your son see that you ARE spending time with him, even if he thinks it’s not enough.[/quote]

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