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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you tell him you love him?  Does he know?  Do you think he loves you?[/quote]

We are dating and we love each other, openly. Last night when I said I wanted to confirm that this is as far as it will go between us, he said “you never know, it keeps evolving [between us],” which I took to mean as ‘I don’t want to give you what you want but I don’t want you out of my life.’ I just don’t want to waste any more of my time, and I know ending it will only be harder as time goes on. [/quote]Oh, these kinds of guys are the worst!  It's the old "I don't want to take responsibility for my feelings so I'm going to make you take responsibility for my feelings and hope that I'll change.  You never know, I could! But I am enjoying myself so much more not committing to you and and meanwhile don't I look just adorable with that hang-dog look in my eyes?"

OP, be strong and cut him loose so you're available for someone better.  But also you might want to do some therapy to understand what is in it for you that you are attracted to guys like that.  I'm speaking from my own experience.  I had to look closely at my need to chase unavailable people before I could get into a good long-term relationship.  Good luck and be strong! [/quote]

NP 
I’ve been there too. They treat you like a girlfriend but won’t actually admit you are their girlfriend. So that when something better comes along, he can walk away from you. And when you are hurt and want answers he can say “I don’t know why you are so upset!! I told you that you aren’t my girlfriend. It’s your fault you have feelings for me.”

Ask me how I know this...

Op, you don’t love him. You love the idea of what could be. You don’t love the guy who doesn’t think you are good enough for him to make his girlfriend. 
Block, block, block. And start “duty dating” as many guys as you can to distract yourself. You deserve better! [/quote]

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