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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t take it personal.  You weren’t in a serious relationship yet and he lost interest.  There doesn’t need to be a conversation about why he has lost interest and why he doesn’t want to talk to you.  Maybe he doesn’t even have a concrete reason to tell you.  It doesn’t make him a jerk, asshole, or something else derogatory.  Be yourself, love yourself.  Repeat this: over, next. [/quote]

Actually leading someone on is the very definition of being an asshole. And women like you willing to excuse poor behavior are the reason so many men think ghosting is okay.

The last part of your post I agree with.[/quote]

They weren’t in a relationship.  At least, it doesn’t sound like they went on more than a couple dates. They were talking frequently and getting to know each other.  At some point you either make a relationship out of it or you don’t.  You shouldn’t want or need an explanation for why he lost interest. A week of not hearing from him is enough.  Would she feel better if he had sent a text and said, “Im sorry but I won’t be talking to you again because...(insert a truthful reason about what they don’t like about you or why they find someone else superior to you). I don’t think it would matter or feel better.  If they had been dating exclusively for months and talking about moving in together, getting engaged, etc. that is different.  But a couple dates and some phone calls does not require or need explanation if someone isn’t feeling it anymore.  [/quote]

Maybe she would. Maybe she wouldn't But it really isn't that hard to say" I think we make better friends."  " Or this isn't working out. Not Just  " I'll call you."  When you have no intention of doing so. If you are someone who does that this makes you a liar and an asshole.   If you are just a woman who excuse everything guys does thinking it makes you strong you are not strong you are just a pick me.  This behavior is rude and wrong . Stop trying to make rudeness and bad manners something women should just accept as part of dating.

Respect and good manners is owed to everyone relationship or not or only a few dates.[/quote]

Woman here and this has nothing to do with respect and good manners.  This is a problem with OP and her insecurities  Just because he called her yesterday and the day before by no means obligates him to call her every day and provide and explanation if he doesn’t.  He didn’t DO anything to her I am excusing.  Not calling is not “doing something” somehow mean or offensive to her.  He doesn’t want to “just be friends”, why should he have to say that?  He doesn’t want to talk to her anymore and he isn’t.  Done. They were not in a relationship.  OP doesn’t even say they went on date.  For all we know she may never have even met him in person- or more than once.  She needs to move on and if she has been dwelling on this for more than a day, she needs a therapist.  Really, this is something I’d be mulling over in high school, not as an adult woman.  [/quote]

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