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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this the only issue or does he do other disrespectful things?  This is a basic respect thing.  If he really can’t understand how bothersome this is I would ask him to go to counseling.[/quote]

Op here. Yes, thank you, it is a basic respect thing. He does other things that are disrespectful but none as blatant or crazy making as this. The other things are more absent minded professor type things that annoy me but I can live with.[/quote]

My guess is that this is a melding of the absent-minded professor thing that makes him legitimately harder to get his attention, and a deliberate pattern of not wanting to expend the mental energy to attend to the tasks of parenting and running a household.  In other words, he wanted you to handle all of dinner and bedtime, so he just opted (consciously or unconsciously) not to hear you, because his wish was for it to all just go away and for you to handle it.

Listen to me friend: GET THERAPY. Your resentment and anger will increase exponentially if you continue down this road.  [/quote]

Ok and here's an additional practical tip.  People do have different communication styles when it comes to collaboration.  Some people like to think out loud collaboratively to air out their thought process before making a decision.  Other people prefer to come to the table with their proposal already thought out.  If you go to your DH and tell him the outcome of your thinking, instead of trying to think through the options out loud with him, that might be more successful.

Next time, try just telling him what you've already decided you want:  "DH I am taking DS to the park and then out to dinner.  You can come with us with the baby, or take care of the baby at home until we get back at 7:30.  See you later!"

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