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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let’s hope the help she needed wasn’t going to be life or death.[/quote]
Well, I was 30 miles away at work when she called. I couldn’t have helped anyway. [/quote]

Your friend didnt know though at that particular moment. [/quote]
What’s your point then about “hoping” it wasn’t life or death as though that’s my problem? [/quote]

That was two PPs there—I am the first.

My point was that you sound unaware of the kind of life events that could make someone into a situational “taker” and also result in a random, possibly desperate call. And that unawareness makes you sound like a jerk.[/quote]
Whatever. I have a mother who is dealing with debilitating depression and a father slowly dying from cancer. My husband works more than he doesn’t, and I don’t have family nearby who can help. I’ve never once used any one of these life events as an excuse to USE others, not have I expected anyone to jump in and save me at a moments notice. And if I thought I might, I sure wouldn’t be calling the woman I once used to grab my kid from school while I leisurely drive home from the drive-thru at Starbucks.[/quote]

OP, please don’t worry about this thread.   You haven’t written anything objectionable, being used sucks, and once you try to explain yourself to the gang here they’ll just shriek more at you in repeated posts about how you’re wrong and it takes a village, even if your fellow villager has only taken and never helped.  Put this particular mom on ignore and invest good thoughts and time in other of DD’s friends’ parents.[/quote]

A lot of the PPs on here are ridiculous. This woman used you for rides and you had no ongoing relationship with each other for a year once you were no longer of use to her.

She runs into you and you reconnect. She calls you a week later. If she had wanted to set up a play date or had a kid/school related question, she would have responded to your text. She didn’t. It’s clear she needed something and once she realized you were not of immediate use, she didn’t even have the courtesy to reply to your follow up text. Why anyone is defending this behavior is beyond me.

I would not want to be roped into being some child’s ride so their mom can pop by Starbucks. Just don’t answer her calls in the future OP. [/quote]
I’m willing to bet money that this is exactly what happened. She’s mistaking the kindness of reconnecting as permission to be a doormat again. Or at least to try. [/quote]

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