OP, you've got to let go

You said, "no" to something. Years ago. It's ok. Move on.

Lol at "What if it was life or death?" I assume if it was life or death the woman would call 911, not the OP of this thread. Some of you are ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Let’s hope the help she needed wasn’t going to be life or death.

Well, I was 30 miles away at work when she called. I couldn’t have helped anyway.

Your friend didnt know though at that particular moment.

What’s your point then about “hoping” it wasn’t life or death as though that’s my problem?

That was two PPs there—I am the first.

My point was that you sound unaware of the kind of life events that could make someone into a situational “taker” and also result in a random, possibly desperate call. And that unawareness makes you sound like a jerk.

Whatever. I have a mother who is dealing with debilitating depression and a father slowly dying from cancer. My husband works more than he doesn’t, and I don’t have family nearby who can help. I’ve never once used any one of these life events as an excuse to USE others, not have I expected anyone to jump in and save me at a moments notice. And if I thought I might, I sure wouldn’t be calling the woman I once used to grab my kid from school while I leisurely drive home from the drive-thru at Starbucks.

OP, please don’t worry about this thread. You haven’t written anything objectionable, being used sucks, and once you try to explain yourself to the gang here they’ll just shriek more at you in repeated posts about how you’re wrong and it takes a village, even if your fellow villager has only taken and never helped. Put this particular mom on ignore and invest good thoughts and time in other of DD’s friends’ parents.

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A lot of the PPs on here are ridiculous. This woman used you for rides and you had no ongoing relationship with each other for a year once you were no longer of use to her.

She runs into you and you reconnect. She calls you a week later. If she had wanted to set up a play date or had a kid/school related question, she would have responded to your text. She didn’t. It’s clear she needed something and once she realized you were not of immediate use, she didn’t even have the courtesy to reply to your follow up text. Why anyone is defending this behavior is beyond me.

I would not want to be roped into being some child’s ride so their mom can pop by Starbucks. Just don’t answer her calls in the future OP.

Some people are just clueless. A fellow preschool mom asked me to pick up/drop off her child when one of her other kids got sick. I was happy to help, even though we lived equidistant from the school in opposite directions. But a week later, I asked whether her child was feeling better and she seemed surprised and asked if I could just keep driving her child because it made life so much easier. I was so shocked in the moment that I just kind of ... gawped and (stupidly) didn't object. Luckily, a week later she asked if I could drive her child to/from a birthday party literally steps from my house – because she wanted to get a run in. I managed to locate my backbone and say no, that wasn't going to work because we were going to just walk to the event and added that an upcoming change in my schedule meant I also couldn't drive her child anymore. Needless to say, she doesn't "like" me much anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:Let’s hope the help she needed wasn’t going to be life or death.

Well, I was 30 miles away at work when she called. I couldn’t have helped anyway.

Your friend didnt know though at that particular moment.

What’s your point then about “hoping” it wasn’t life or death as though that’s my problem?

That was two PPs there—I am the first.

My point was that you sound unaware of the kind of life events that could make someone into a situational “taker” and also result in a random, possibly desperate call. And that unawareness makes you sound like a jerk.

Whatever. I have a mother who is dealing with debilitating depression and a father slowly dying from cancer. My husband works more than he doesn’t, and I don’t have family nearby who can help. I’ve never once used any one of these life events as an excuse to USE others, not have I expected anyone to jump in and save me at a moments notice. And if I thought I might, I sure wouldn’t be calling the woman I once used to grab my kid from school while I leisurely drive home from the drive-thru at Starbucks.

OP, please don’t worry about this thread. You haven’t written anything objectionable, being used sucks, and once you try to explain yourself to the gang here they’ll just shriek more at you in repeated posts about how you’re wrong and it takes a village, even if your fellow villager has only taken and never helped. Put this particular mom on ignore and invest good thoughts and time in other of DD’s friends’ parents.

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A lot of the PPs on here are ridiculous. This woman used you for rides and you had no ongoing relationship with each other for a year once you were no longer of use to her.

She runs into you and you reconnect. She calls you a week later. If she had wanted to set up a play date or had a kid/school related question, she would have responded to your text. She didn’t. It’s clear she needed something and once she realized you were not of immediate use, she didn’t even have the courtesy to reply to your follow up text. Why anyone is defending this behavior is beyond me.

I would not want to be roped into being some child’s ride so their mom can pop by Starbucks. Just don’t answer her calls in the future OP.

I’m willing to bet money that this is exactly what happened. She’s mistaking the kindness of reconnecting as permission to be a doormat again. Or at least to try.

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Anonymous wrote:Let’s hope the help she needed wasn’t going to be life or death.

Well, I was 30 miles away at work when she called. I couldn’t have helped anyway.

Your friend didnt know though at that particular moment.

What’s your point then about “hoping” it wasn’t life or death as though that’s my problem?

That was two PPs there—I am the first.

My point was that you sound unaware of the kind of life events that could make someone into a situational “taker” and also result in a random, possibly desperate call. And that unawareness makes you sound like a jerk.

Whatever. I have a mother who is dealing with debilitating depression and a father slowly dying from cancer. My husband works more than he doesn’t, and I don’t have family nearby who can help. I’ve never once used any one of these life events as an excuse to USE others, not have I expected anyone to jump in and save me at a moments notice. And if I thought I might, I sure wouldn’t be calling the woman I once used to grab my kid from school while I leisurely drive home from the drive-thru at Starbucks.

OP, please don’t worry about this thread. You haven’t written anything objectionable, being used sucks, and once you try to explain yourself to the gang here they’ll just shriek more at you in repeated posts about how you’re wrong and it takes a village, even if your fellow villager has only taken and never helped. Put this particular mom on ignore and invest good thoughts and time in other of DD’s friends’ parents.

+1

A lot of the PPs on here are ridiculous. This woman used you for rides and you had no ongoing relationship with each other for a year once you were no longer of use to her.

She runs into you and you reconnect. She calls you a week later. If she had wanted to set up a play date or had a kid/school related question, she would have responded to your text. She didn’t. It’s clear she needed something and once she realized you were not of immediate use, she didn’t even have the courtesy to reply to your follow up text. Why anyone is defending this behavior is beyond me.

I would not want to be roped into being some child’s ride so their mom can pop by Starbucks. Just don’t answer her calls in the future OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Let’s hope the help she needed wasn’t going to be life or death.

Well, I was 30 miles away at work when she called. I couldn’t have helped anyway.

Your friend didnt know though at that particular moment.

What’s your point then about “hoping” it wasn’t life or death as though that’s my problem?

Great. You have know chosen another meaningless bit of nonsense to perseverate about.

Not OP. You’re an asshole. Work on that, sweetheart.