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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow - where are these awful PTAs? I have had two kids in five schools so far, and nowhere did we see this drama. Parents come to the meetings and volunteer as needed, which is always welcome. Or they come to the meetings and don't volunteer, which is fine too. Or they send money and don't do anything else - also fine. Or they don't belong to the PTA at all, and nobody cares. I was in all those scenarios, and on the board of a few. Never had anyone time for drama - we were there to get stuff done in the most efficient way possible so we could get back to our jobs, kids, lives. Nobody had time to dwell on how any particular person perceived their "reception". Get over yourself, OP. Either volunteer, or don't. If you want warm and fuzzy, form a book club or a support group. Done.[/quote]
This is hilarious.  You spend sentences talking about how awesome and accepting your PTA was and then end up telling OP that they're expecting too much to be treated civilly and suggest therapy.  Is it possible you're part of the problem OP's describing?

The reason that PTA snobbishness is of note is not because people are looking for BFFs or unconditional positive regard, it's that parents who want to volunteer are boxed out and treated rudely by the mostly SAHMs who run the things.  Most of us are big girls and boys who can handle cool civility or even cold efficiency, it's the stupid shit like being ignored when one speaks or having adults act like Regina George that is off-putting.  And it's odd to encounter that level of immaturity trying to pitch in at your kids' school, from people who moan about how much they're doing and how no one else will help them.[/quote]

I didn't say the PTA was awesome. I said nobody had time for drama. We were there to do a job, and we did it. If you like it, join. If not, don't. PTAs are not book clubs where you go to make friends and have a good time. You go to work on things that the schools/teachers/kids need. OP didn't say anyone was rude to her. Just not welcoming enough.

Also, in my experience most of the PTA moms work. Very few SAHMs filled board positions on any of the PTAs I was ever involved in. Which probably helps explain why nobody had time to disparage each other and form cliques. Most of the time it was "let's get this thing done in the most efficient way possible so we can get home to make dinner, supervise homework, or get to the office on time". [/quote]

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