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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone that committed to a marriage with a partner that wasn’t loyal, I can tell you that marriage is not a solid promise of lifetime partnership. For some people it’s a lifetime death sentence. There are plenty of very helpful  relationships where there is no compromise, with monogamy, commitment, and companionship without deceit, manipulation, nor a legal contract that obligated you financially to another person. Marriage isn’t for everyone.[/quote]

No one is saying OP has to be interested in marrying the guy.  That's not the point.

The point is that OP is probably delusional if she goes into a relationship KNOWING that she wants it to be casual and non-serious from the get-go, yet having this expectation that she is going to find a DESIRABLE man who will agree to "exclusivity."

What does that even mean?  He has to be "exclusive" until she decides she wants to dump him or date someone else?   She alone gets that option?
ridiculous.

OP is a divorced woman in her 40's who apparently just wants casual sex.  Fine.  Casual sex is inherently "non-exclusive" sex.  That doesn't mean the other person or OP is having sex with someone else simultaneously, or all the time.  It does mean she is making it very obvious she will dump the guy as soon as a "better option" comes along.

Why should any guy agree to foreclose any of his other options just for OP's convenience?  (Even if a guy seems to agree to this, he's probably just a liar, or has no other options.)

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