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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, maybe what you are really saying is that you want a chance to "play the field" with multiple guys at your option, but maybe have one guy as your "old reliable" "go to guy" when not much else is happening.  So 1/2 off the time is your "regular" and the other half you are out slutting around, or trying to.

That's O.K. you do you.

However, no quality, desirable man with any options is going to put up with that sort of treatment.

If you make it clear that you're not interested in getting serious or monogamous, sure, you'll get plenty of guys who just want to you, but you're crazy if you have any expectations that it's you who will get to pick and choose whether, if, when, and on what terms it's anything but that.[/quote]

+1. The larger point is 100% accurate. Although I don’t think half time when you’re a mother/father really means half time for strange. I think that’s something men tend to do more than women actually. In OP’s case, it really can mean that is all the time you can invest for the new structure of your life, and want to share that with one person, without complication. Every other week. And introducing children creates a completely different dynamic so someone acceptable of that boundary is something to consider. Concluding slutty tendencies for that choice is pretty chauvinistic and harsh.[/quote]

OK let's say what Op actually meant was 1/2 time with the guy, the other 1/2 is being a mom with her kids due to custody obligations.

Doesn't really make any difference.

Why would OP expect a minimally desirable man with options to commit exculsively or monogamously to a relationship that admittedly is never going anywhere?

Sure, he will date OP, maybe even exclusively, until he finds a better option.

If he doesn't have any other options then they will just muddle along I guess.

But---what's the point?

OP just wants to bang to fulfill casual physical needs, O.K., but what gives her the arrogance to insist that in the other 1/2 of her time when she's doing something else, he can't be with other women?

I mean the sense of entitlement some of these divorcees have knows no bounds.[/quote]

So much for service members who are committed to their spouse for long stretches and absence; and the marriages where they lay down next to their spouse every night but haven’t been touched in years. Your points tie to very heavy assumptions, and don’t support an objective view.[/quote]

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