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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, what a privileged position it would be to be able to do that. But I have managed to co-exist as a career woman and a mother, and both career and offspring are doing fine. [/quote]

You have never been in a situation where you needed to so you can call it a privilege.  I had no choice.  I had a SN child and a relative I had to be a full time caregiver to and the cost of paying two people to do that (plus all the therapies for both of them) would be unaffordable.  Then, we had some other major issues for several years.  There was no way I could work and do it all.  For me, working was a privilege.  I hope you never have the things we have/had where it is a necessity.  Its easy to be a mother when your kids can go to regular day care or get a nanny and its no issue.  Its a different story when your child has 1-2 therapies a day that are up to 40 minutes each way plus a specialize preschool 35 minutes away.  Not to mention the senior care (tried an adult day care and that didn't work as it was terrible).[/quote]

I was in the same situation but as a single parent and the sole source of health insurance, I had to keep working. Thankfully my neighbor took care of my DD and I traded childcare for cleaning her house, pet sitting and house sitting. [/quote]

No neighbor would ever have taken care of my severely autistic DS. In fact even family wouldn’t babysit him until he was 11 years old. 
It was a very intense, sleepless 11 years. And then after much work he started to calm some . [/quote]

DP: so what would you have done if you were a single parent?  I get what you're saying, but not everyone does have the choice to stop working.  They just don't.[/quote]

Well, either my son would have suffered greatly as I overly medicated him and sent him to a public school, or we would have lived in poverty in some tiny apartment somewhere with him on Medicaid. 
I probably would have picked option 2. His life is 1000 times better because I spent so much time raising him (with help from DH of course). My son is severe so it was either nonstop behavior mods and social skills training or a future life in an institution. Or meds - but often those don’t last forever and antipsychotics can have horrible side effects and you end up with an angry adult with few social skills and little to do on a huge cocktail of mind numbing drugs.

Your child doesn’t sound that severe. Mine was. I have advanced degrees in science and engineering and gave up a great and interesting job . No regrets, though honestly I thought that he would improve faster than he did and I could go back to work but that didn’t work out. Not at all.

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