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[quote=Anonymous]A few things going on here op. First, you get a lot of conflicting data coming at you when you are pregnant. You get the "babies don't need much" compared with "be sure you have everything you need" sometimes from the same people. You get "Oh, I never left the house once my baby was born" conflicted with "Babies are portable, I took mine everywhere!". Add to that exciment that this is *your* baby, and things are even more intense. I can remember being a little girl and wanting to look at baby stuff, swings and the like. My parents had friends with babies and I'd think "someday I'll get to do this with my baby". Fast-forward to when I had my first baby, and it hit me that I was going to do the things I remember my parents doing, either things I'd seen them do, or things I'd heard them talk about, or things I'd sometimes done as a teenager. I can clearly remember my aunt giving one of my cousins a bath when he was tiny, and then giving my son a bath when he was tiny and thinking "Wow, I am doing the same thing my aunt did". I am not close to this aunt, haven't seen that cousin in years, and I was surprised at the recollection. And, this is my third baby!  I think this is unique to women, men seem to want to teach their older kids things and are less focused on the baby stage, especially before the baby is born. Finally, add to all this that you have said this will probably be her (and maybe your??) only baby. This means she's only got one shot. If she doesn't experience or buy it now, she may never have the chance again. If she wants more children, and I don't know that she does, she hasn't gotten smart about how to tell you this. This board and society in general are full of posters admonishing women to "agree on the number of children before a marriage" and "the no vote always wins". The voices of our husbands are powerful, I blame too much early 1960's bubble-gum pop coupled with the idea that men and women both think they have more control over all types of things than they actually do. 
Realize a couple of things. First, just about everything can be returned. You guys can stack the boxes in a corner and sort it out. Second, dial back on any "we're one and done" talk at least for now. No woman wants to feel like her husband is just waiting for the clock to run down so he can get back to his "real life". Finally, realize that different types of the same device do different things. She may very well need three strollers, one for walks, one for hauling groceries from car to condo, and maybe one because she's heard everybody just loooves it! Know that one huge down-side to condo or apartment living is that you can't leave the baby alone while you bring things into or out of the car meaning that erands take more then one adult, or mama has to get real good at carrying the baby around while holding some unwieldy grocery items, think milk, eggs, toilet paper. Since your wife used to be a nanny, she likely has a way better grasp of how she will accomplish her goals and enjoy doing so then you do.  Everything can be returned, and it's doubtful you guys will get what you expect in terms of gifts. Most people just aren't willing or able to spend money on babies that are not their own, no matter how much they love you, your wife or the baby. The registry is just a suggestion, and often it is ignored. Expect to get some stuffed animals, diapers and clothes. 
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