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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We knew it wasn't great but the teacher didn't post grades to the portal for most of the quarter until this weekend and now we realize it's a disaster (D.) How bad is this?

Fwiw DS is not a high-flier student; he's in mostly honors classes with As and Bs but absent parental pressure he does the bare minimum. He's a great kid, mature for his age and kind, with a nice group of nerdy friends, and I think his personality will take him a long way in life. I don't expect him to be competitive at top-tier colleges[b] but I don't want him to tank any hope of college as a freshman, especially over an elective[/b] where he just failed to turn in a bunch of assignments.

My related problem is that my husband is out-of-control furious about this. Checking the portal incessantly, screaming, slamming doors, making threats. He stormed out of the house at 630am because my son refused to sit for a before-school lecture. (He already spent much of yesterday freaking out and screaming at DS.) That's probably an issue for a different forum but if anyone has any advice on managing expectations I'd be grateful.[/quote]

You are insane. Get a grip.

Your husband is an asshole. Badgering, harassing, and bullying someone will not result in positive outcomes.[/quote]

If your husband wants to check the portal constantly, there's no stopping him.  But the rule has to be "ask about the missing work" before yelling about the missing work.  Sometimes it really isn't the kid.  Your husband is on a path leading to disaster.  Before long the kid will use the only power he has... which is to do poorly in school and create a freakout.

As for your kid: it is a quarter, not a year.  He needs to hunker down and do his work.  And if he gets a D, he gets a D.  He absolutely can go to college. One crappy freshman elective isn't the end of the world at all.

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