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[quote=Anonymous]I posted earlier that I think this is a crock, but I’ll elaborate on this.  I dated two guys that used to say this, and I’m sure when I broke up with them, they told someone it was because they were “too nice,” but that’s really not what it was.
Both were very passive aggressive and guilt-trippy.  If I didn’t want to do somethjng, they’d cajole me and guilt trip me until l I gave in.  Both were jealous, often down-talking other men in my life, in a weird insecure competitive way.  At least one of them clearly had things he didn’t like about me, but rather than finding a different woman who was a better fit for him, would make backhanded compliments and roundabout suggestions to try to change me.  They were both nice guys, in their way, and both were pretty decent platonic friends—-they were just so insecure that they were terrible boyfriends.

But I think guys who are genuinely kind and comfortable in their own skin do well on the dating market.  I don’t know about the job market—I think that depends on the field but I guess it’s no secret that capitalism doesn’t always reward kindness.[/quote]

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