Reply to Issue with blended family

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Issue with blended family "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a stepmom.  First, read Stepmonster. It would help you adjust your expectations.

Second, is there any possibility of changing the custody schedule to switch weeks so his kids are there one week, your kids another, with maybe one overlap day??

These kids have already lost their dad half the time, clearly have trauma about the breakup of their family.  Only seeing their dad 50% of the time, it’s crazy that they have to divide their time with FOUR total strangers!!   IF you love this guy, love his kids enough to gave them more time with him.

Let go of your visions of doing things as a group of 7 except maybe once a week.  It’s not fair to any of you.  One daily dinner of all 7 weekly would be a big win.

On your week with your kids, they can start adjusting to your DH’s presence without also adjusting to 2 more siblings.  ANd vice-versa.

This forced family crowding is a Recipe for disaster.  Focus on strengthening individual relationships rather than strengthening the nonexistent group bond.  If people are getting their individual needs met, they wreck far more likely to be pleasant and cooperative.[/quote]

OP - follow this advice. It’s sound. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics