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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD cries a lot over things that upset her. For example, just now, device time was ending and she was starting to unload the dishwasher. When I called up to her younger brother to get off his device, he asked if he could finish his game and I said OK. This provoked tears and sniffling in DD, who told me I was being unfair. She reacts this way to a lot of our parenting requests. Some reactions are more dramatic than others and are borderline tantrums. She's been like this for years, and I guess we assumed that she would outgrow it, but that does not seem to be happening. SO my question is whether this is normal behavior for an 11 year old, and if not, what should we do about it?[/quote] It may be helpful to teach your DD to use more verbal communication to express what she wants. Knowing very little, but what I read above, it looks like she was stuck doing a chore while the device time was winding down. So in this case, it may help to tell her that to avoid missing out on device time in the future, she could 1) finish chores and homework earlier to preserve device time 2) if the family schedule (activities, dinner, chores) prevents device time, and she has had to miss it for several days, she could come and talk to you about it and figure out how to squeeze in some device time. They key is to have her be able to figure out how to get want she wants while fulfilling her responsibilites. Put her in control of achieving her goals, wants, desires, etc. Also, not that it is necessarily happening, make sure your son is getting his fair share of chores and is not getting more free time. Both your kids should should know that screen time is not a giving for everyday, especially when it is a busy day.[/quote]

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