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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes it's true. My husband comes from trailer trash but their educated mom saw to it that they all got through college. Nevertheless, most of his nieces and nephews have  dropped out of high school and his siblings live in conditions as bad or worse than those in which they grew up. He married up (me). 
   I pushed him to seek promotions, professional friends and our kids seem to be following our example. He is horrified and embarrassed by his siblings' situation.
  I've said something similar during blowouts. In happier times he's acknowledged it's true.[/quote]
Yikes. Folks in relationships help one another. But to think your spouse would be nothing without you- is something I cannot relate to. My spouse has worth & something outside of our marriage [/quote]

DP here, and I love my husband dearly, but he would be a complete mess if he hadn't met/married me.  And like you, OP, he has the same job and degrees now as he had when we met.  The difference was the way he spent money, his mindset about money and some other things.  When I met him, he spent all the money he made, he was always looking for these "get rich quick" schemes that always lost him money and he never thought long-term.  He didn't own a home - hell, he rented a basement apartment on a month-by-month basis.

I helped him with all these things and now? well, he has a hefty retirement account, owns a couple homes (with me), thinks about the future and understands that these get rich quick schemes never work.  He wouldn't be where he is today but for me.  And he'll tell you that himself.

But, for us, it's not a negative thing to look at your partner and know that he/she made you who you are today.  So, to answer your question, having the same job and same education isn't all it's about - other things make you all of who you are.

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PP here. This is what I meant. You said it better than me. During verbal fights, usually ones about me setting goals, I've pointed out that his success in life has something to do with the fact that  he's married to me. [/quote]

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