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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Most of these suggestions are helpful. 
I guess that is what I would expect from her. She could try to remind me if I’m forgetting to replace certain things, or suggest a shared shopping list. Her solution is to tell me not to use stuff and/or hide it. That’s what I find problematic.[/quote]

You sound exhausting.

When my DH uses something up, he tells me and either picks up more himself, or if I'm going to the store that day I'll offer to get it. I don't need to remind him because he's a friggin' adult. If he consistently forgot to tell me or get more, yea, I'd hide things and tell him not to use it.

Would you treat a roommate this way? Probably not. If you would respect a roommate enough to replace things immediately, you need to give your wife that same respect. [/quote]
OP here,
I grocery shop every week and have no problem restocking items. That doesn’t mean I have never used something and didn’t replace it immediately. So you have never planned to use a recipe and realized you forgot one item on the list? If not kudos to you. 
As for a roommate, I wouldn’t use the roommates stuff without asking, but I also wouldn’t pay for housing, healthcare, and student loans for a room mate either. [/quote]

If you grocery shop, why aren't YOU stocking up on the things you like to consume? How often are you using things up and forgetting to replace them? Once in awhile is okay, weekly is not. 
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I do stock up on things I use. It would be weird for me to go to the store
every week and buy stuff I don’t use. If it were just a matter of me using stuff and not replacing it, I wouldn’t post on
A forum about as that is obviously problematic behavior. I get the impression she doesn’t want me to use things she buys. She says this even when stuff is not close to running out.[/quote]

She’s being weird. Maybe she has OCD or she’s upset about something else. Dig deeper and get to the root or keep trying to find a solution to this symptom of a deeper problem. Either way, it’s annoying. It seems like your options are to buy your own so you’re not using the stuff she bought, or ignore her and keep doing what you’ve been doing. [/quote]

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