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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP’s comment is insensitive and clearly shows she does not understand trauma. Telling someone to move past an experience that has traumatized them and to focus on their baby is the exact wrong thing to say. If OP feels she was traumatized at 3 weeks postpartum, she will likely be experiencing some degree of birth trauma and she may need support to get through it. Telling her she is missing out on precious moments is shaming her for acknowledging her feelings and trying to make her feel guilty for admitting them. [/quote]

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OP here- I am going to presume that you meant your comment to be supportive but it absolutely read as unsupportive. I already feel so much pressure to “be thankful for the new baby” and to “look on the bright side”. Part of my pain stems from feeling robbed of my baby’s first months of life. If you should have friends or family in similar circumstances, I encourage you to be more empathetic and less directive. [/quote]

OP I have been nothing but supportive to you here so am not quite sure why you are telling me I’m not being empathetic. I was the one defending you and your feelings to the PP who is telling you to just get over the birth and be grateful for your baby. I actually posted about how that message spoken to me after my traumatic birth made me feel a whole lot worse about everything and made it that much harder for me to realize I needed professional help. I’m just going to assume you intended your comment to the insensitive post I was responding to. I had those exact same feelings of being robbed of enjoying my baby’s infancy because I was dealing with full blown PTSD, flashbacks, near panic attacks, and being in a constant state of fear/stress. I wish you well and hope you are able to move forward, and seek out help if you need it. [/quote]

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