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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. None of the siblings are that interested in their inheritance (plus the inheritance will be split so many ways because there were a lot of children and grandchildren). Siblings A-E are all doing what they think is best out of love. [/quote]

Expecting sibling E to spend their weekends cleaning the house instead of hiring someone is about control, not love.  Sibling A is out of line. [/quote]

This.  And sibling E, being in the medical profession, probably is aware of just how far south dementia can take a person.  As well meaning as the rest of the group may be they have not seen how bad it can get.

Much depends on what is being termed "dementia" and whether or not grandma can still make rational decisions for herself - even if we don't always agree with what she is deciding.

Why are these family members doing all of this hard physical labor around her house when she can afford to hire it done?  They aren't spending quality time with grandma if they are outside mowing the lawn are they?  Don't be cheap - hire that done![/quote]

OP here. The elderly person cannot make decisions for herself. She cannot cook or clean (too frail).

I posted to see HOW to agree on care for her. I'm not sure how to get Siblings A-E on the same page. Sibling A keeps saying they're doing this for their deceased father and as an act of love to their mother.[/quote]

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