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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No worries. Give yourself time.[/quote]

+1. This is also what my mom felt with my second when they were born. There was grandchild 1 already a person who is expressive and loving, who has interesting things to do and say, and they have all these memories together (she also took care of grandchild 1), and then there was grandchild 2 just a baby who she had no relationship with yet and the novelty of being grandma has worn off. It goes away, and the younger one will grow on you and get inside your heart. The first one may always be special because of the significance of his birth, but give it some time and the younger one will be there too in your heart. [/quote]

I think this is true for my MIL. My kid, the second grandchild on that side is 20 months younger than her older cousin. MIL (and FIL) were obsessed with the first grandchild (honestly the parents seemed overwhelmed by the attention), and when we had our kid, she was just a not super interactive baby to them while older cousin was this very interesting almost 2 year old. Fast forward, now my kid is almost 2 and is super interesting and interactive--and at a cute and engaging age, and the grandparents seem to have evened out and come around to loving both grandkids equally. Give it time, but also be like my ILs and make the effort to show up for the younger one--this could be the last grandkid, you don't want to miss out on these 'lasts' by only focusing on the other grandchilds 'firsts'.[/quote]

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