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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get grumpy as a parent when I need a break.  OP, if your DH has ADHD, he probably doesn't have the executive functioning skills to figure out how to get himself a regular break.  You may need to help him.  What did he do to unwind before kids?  When does he seem happiest?  When does he connect with the kids?  With you?

Is the morning slog the worst?  If so, get a nanny or au pair to help with mornings and send him to the gym / to get coffee / to work early / chilling in bed / to read the news.  Hiring help is so much cheaper than a divorce.  [/quote]

What is your job OP and DHs job & commutes?[/quote]

Honestly, our jobs are busy but could be a lot worse (no big-law, etc.).  Both are Feds.  His commute is about 30 minutes and mine is an hour.  He has to be to work by 6:00 (but gets home early) so I do drop-off and he handles pick-up.  I telework 2-3 days a week so am around those days to help with the evening routine.[/quote]

You have a longer commute but only have to endure it 2-3 times a week.  I work early shift too, and getting to work by 6, means he is up at 430 or 5am, then picking up the kids E.V.E.R.Y day can be very draining.  So you are there in the evening, and then he probably gets 'done' (as in no one asking something of him) around 8pm.  So maybe he unwinds for an hour, and in bed by 9, which would feel like a very limited life.

But I suspect he stays up past 9, and the issue you are dealing with is he is overtired.

You do have quite the slog there.[/quote]

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