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[quote=Anonymous]But DD isn’t actually late. She has never missed the bus. She’s just not ready as early as the other kids.

There is just no issue. All DH has to do is establish the departure time and quit nagging. DD will either be on time or not; if she is not, she will bear the consequence (walking, and risking an unexcused lateness). She will learn to be on time and DH doesn’t need to yell or freeze her out. Simple.

This is not a chronically defiant or disrespectful kid, this is a kid who gets good grades and is a nice kid. DH should give her the benefit of the doubt. And TALK to her. Yes, it is his job as the parent to set boundaries and establish clear behavioral expectations. But it is also his job to listen, to talk to her kindly, and to treat her with the empathy and respect he wants her to show others. If DH freezes her out or leaves her behind (not because she was late, but ecause he got huffy when she challenged his behavior!), he is not teaching her to be thoughtful or respectful,he is just teaching her that bigger, louder, powerful people can treat less powerful people any way they want. Not a good lesson. He has an opportunity to make it a teaching moment in a good way for DD. Instead he is modeling all the wrong behavior.[/quote]

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