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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is ridiculous. No one can pressure you into working a job you do not want to work. If your spouse is insisting that you take a job you don't want, that's a jerk move, but it's not "abuse." If your spouse beats you or threatens to beat you if you do not take a job you don't want, that's abuse. You can go on and on and on about emotional abuse, but in every situation I've seen where one partner works a high-paying stressful job to support the family, there is at least some discussion of that and agreement about who the breadwinner will be.

If you find that you are in a situation where your spouse is pressuring you to work at a job you don't like in order to subsidize their lifestyle while not contributing financially themselves, I would suggest that you consider divorcing this selfish person. [/quote]say if she threatened to leave you if you don’t work a job you hate? Not abuse?[/quote]

I think it's mean and manipulative. As someone who works with actual survivors of domestic abuse, I think it it frankly laughable that you are calling a wife who threatens to leave you if you only make $300k instead of $700k "abusive."

Listen, there is economic coercion that certainly happens. By and large, it happens to women who are employed in low-skill, low-pay fields such as childcare, housekeeping, the maquiladoras in Juarez, etc. There are plenty of people who are forced by their spouses to work with threats of violence, social consequences, etc.

What you are describing is a materialist who doesn't respect you. Please do not put yourself in the same category as the women who are forced to work by abusive husbands under threat of violence against them or their children.[/quote]be honest, you’d say him noticing she has gained 100 lbs in the two years they’ve been married as being abuse[/quote]

Be honest. You're a misogynist who just doesn't like your wife.

If you've only been married for 2 years and things are already this bad, just leave. Clearly being married to her isn't good for you, and it's likely that she's not too happy either.[/quote]

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